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Aggressive chemo, radiation and hormone treatment continued throughout 2016. My surgeon informed me, “ It will be a rough year.” Listening to him break the news, my thought was, “This is a dramatic story. I’m going to write as I go.” Writing was a big piece of my healing. It kept me focused. There was a lot to keep track of once I learned I had breast cancer.
With my loving husband Gerard by my side every step of the way, I kept track of medications, medical appointments and details of treatment. I continued to live life as a teacher, wife, daughter-in-law and friend. We were also taking care of my husband’s father. Early on in the process, I felt a psychological and spiritual connection to my breast cancer. I made it a priority to get healthy in body and soul. Writing reminded me to stay consistent. My journal is now proof to myself that I can get through the hard stuff, come out wiser and more appreciative of life.
Monitoring and hormone therapy continue for another seven years. There are ongoing physical challenges. In January 2017 I developed lymphedema. I wear a compression glove and sleeve now, but can still play guitar and piano. Today I feel healthy, happy and strong.
Through my journal, I found my best listener. I imagined talking to a perfect best friend, someone with time to listen to my every thought, harebrained or not. I put pieces of my life together. Synchronized events piled up. This made me feel I was on the right track. I stayed mostly in the present, but as interesting memories came up, I wrote them down. I didn’t dwell on the past. As 2016 came to a close, I felt complete. I had written important stories that define me. I discovered what I needed to live most fully on my own terms. Completing my 2016 journal marked the end of a chapter in my life. As 2017 began, I closed that book. I focused on the present, but with the great benefit of techniques, good habits and insights from the previous year.
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I worked on getting in my best physical shape with walking and other endurance exercises. I drank plenty of water to flush the chemo through. I felt lucky to have medical insurance thanks to Obamacare.
I focused on making the best of every day. And it wasn’t that bad. Cancer treatment has radically advanced in the last 20 years. Controlling nausea and other negative effects is managed quite well with newer drugs. I now remind all my women friends to be sure and regularly check their breasts. Most breast cancers are discovered because women find their own lumps. My surgeon talked to me about how sad it is for many nuns. They’re uncomfortable with their bodies. They don’t discover the cancer. They die.
My mother lived to be 94 years old and never had it. I thought I had such great genes and a healthy lifestyle. My heart attack risk is low. My blood pressure is generally about 90/55. I never get sick. I took only three sick days in 20 years of teaching. My only health issues in my 55 years before cancer were annoying pollen allergies, and since about age 53, my right big toe starting getting stiff from some arthritis.
Oh the joys of aging!
At every annual exam throughout my adult years I was reminded to do breast exams. Generally I would soon forget. I assumed my regular mammograms were enough. After my diagnosis, I learned that cancer grows for maybe 10 to 12 years before a mammogram can see anything. I wondered why we are still using that seemingly antiquated detection method. I appreciate researchers, doctors and activists working on this.
Before scheduling my yearly exam in 2015, I started noticing that my bras weren’t fitting right. I checked the left side and felt hard tissue. I compared it with the right that felt softer and smoother. It was subtle. I was checking for a few weeks. Sometimes the left breast felt denser than other times. The tumors move around in the ocean of breast tissue. It can take chasing after them to find them. They’re easy to miss.
We need to pay attention. We literally need to take our own bodies into our own hands to protect ourselves.
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